Delays Concert in KOKO

Delays Concert in KOKO

On the second day after I arrived in London I went to see the Delays play in concert at KOKO on Camden High Street. KOKO is a strange place – it is an old opera house, once one of the largest in London, and is spread over four floors. We chose to go to the first floor and look over the balcony where we could easily see the band. I have to admit that the concert was amazing and I enjoyed all the songs. Greg Gilbert, the lead vocalist, has a very special high voice and the atmosphere was very exciting. I can’t believe that he looks so young, but is so talented, to create so such distinctive music.

They have released three albums and my favourite album is “You See Colours”. One of their songs was featured in an episode of Veronica Mars.

Here is their myspace page.

London attractions

carmen in london

John took me visit all the attractions in London at the weekend. We have been through London eye, The Houses of Parliament, Tower Bridge, Trafalgar Square,The Tower of London,The British Museum,Tate Gallery of Modern Art, China Town, Buckingham Palace, OXO Tower, Piccadilly Circus, St Paul`s Cathedral, Shakespeare`s Globe Theatre and Brick Lane. I can’t believe that we have done so many tourist places in these two days, but I got a lot of fun and different experience as well.

On the way I also went to play on the Mary-go-around for few minutes. It sounds childish, but actually I haven’t done that since 1990; it just reminded me of my childhood. Many cool artists perform their show near London eyes. You put some money, then they will move or perform for you. Funny things is I wasn’t expect to see a man dressed up with a horror mouth in his stomach and I was screaming and everyone was looking at me. And then the man decided to make me scream one more time; he was chasing me and used his scary month to bite my arm. God…so funny but I couldn’t help screaming.

I have to say there are so many places to visit in London and I love the city atmosphere.

My First Day in London

paris hilton in london

Today I am writing from London. I arrived at Heathrow airport after 12 hours flying with British Airway. BA was great with money and services. I arrived at terminal 5, which is very new and I have heard some negative news – unluckily I experienced it too. I was met at the airport and entered an elevator which then got stuck. We pressed the emergency button and the staff helped us to restart the system.

Leaving the airport we took the London Metro, known as ‘The Tube’. My first impressions are that it is very small, especially compared with Hong Kong and Guangzhou. I’m told that the metro is over 100 years old, so maybe that explains it, and would certainly explain the lack of air conditioning.

We arrived at John’s new two-floor house where he has his own garden and parking place. As a city girl, I have never experienced living in a house with two floors. I walked through the garden and entered the house to find it is stylish, modern, cozy and most importantly, feels like a proper home. I will take some pictures to show later.

We walked around the local area and then went Oxford Street. While there we entered Selfridges, a very big department store, where we amazingly saw Paris Hilton promoting a new perfume. Paris is so tall and slim and was surrounded by a lot of people. Wow, I thought it was so cool and the first time for me to see a celebrity in real life.

Anyway, in the afternoon we also went to Sainsburys supermarket to buy some food. There are lots and lots of different kinds of food from all over the world, food selections and they are far to expensive if you convert to RMB. For example, vegetables in China are generally only a few yuan while here they are many times more expensive. However, you can’t think like that as you are comparing different countries and different standards of living.

It is exciting, exhausting, and very strange to explore London. I have seen I saw a lot of stylish and chic people walking the street. I’ve seen many different types of interesting people and I am still not used to hear so many people speaking British accent around me. Right now I’m still overwhelmed with everything and my body is too excited to feel any jet lag.

The weather was hot and sunny until the day I arrived, then it was chilly and cold. I didn’t expect this after leaving hot and humid Guangzhou. Another difference I’ve noticed is that you can see daylight until about 10 PM. They have long daylight in summer, but short daylight in winter. I guess everyone like more daylight!

John has booked the Delays concert later tonight and we will have a Rock and Roll night. I can’t wait.

伦敦的第一天

今年利用年假计划五月份去英国旅游,因为5-6月份是英国最好的旅游季节。12 小时的飞机在早上6点钟到达了英国。乘着英航到了伦敦希思罗机场,进了5号航道,出了机场,在入了关的时候,没有任何的指示你应该排哪里,我就跟着大队就行!移民官会问题一些基本的问题哦!

拿了行李,英国人都很有礼貌,见我个子小就帮我搬行李,出了机场,约翰已经在机场等我了,听说5航道的设计有很多问题,晨早留留我们居然困在电梯里,真是有问题啊,按了紧急按钮才帮我们打开门,超搞笑!人生一次困在电梯里!伦敦的地铁因是很早就建成,容纳人数超小也很拥挤,听说有很多条线也很慢。幸好广州和香港因后发展所以都是用了采取最新的地铁和设备!对了,他们地铁是有暖气而反而没有空调的,外面舒服过里面呢。爱鞋子的我瞄了一下大家的鞋子都超干净。这时刻对我来说,什么都是超级新鲜!
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Goodbye to short sightedness

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I’ve worn contact lenses for more than 10 years and my eyes were rated at minus 7. Recently I decided to have eye surgery to correct my eyesight and after a few minutes inside a LASIK machine I’m now told that my eyes are 1.2 or 1.3! I can see things perfectly without any blurring. How amazing it is! I had my surgery at Guangzhou No. 1 hospital and I know they use a German machine. The operation was very small and almost painless, although it sounds unpleasant to describe (which I won’t do!). If you do suffer from bad eyesight then I really recommend you to try it out. The cost for me was RMB 7500 and has definitely been worth it.

700度近视激光好了!
听了很多朋友说近视激光技术发展的很快了,近视治疗已经是小手术一宗。了解一个月之后,我和涵终于觉得花这笔钱。我们选择了广州市一去治疗,选择了最贵的LASIK 准分子切割手术¥7500,因我们是高度近视,短短的1分钟,我们的眼睛就重建光明了。手术之中一点都不疼,有点害怕,过后有点则热感,闭着双眼隔一天,第二天复查就好了。以后还要好好保护好眼睛,不过没有近视的人不知道,高度近视的辛苦,不戴眼镜或隐形能看到东西一清二楚,实在幸福无比。

Family gethering in New Year 2008

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What it will be a good beginning to start 2008? John decided to meet my parents, and we have our new plan for 2008, that I will be studying in London for my masters and we moved to London. I am not sure my parents will like the ideas, so the most important thing is to introduce John to my parents. I know it sounds silly that we have been dating for almost 5 years now, and finally we have the chance to introduce both properly.

With a tremendous good news is that my parents have moved to the new house, where is next to the Meritus Shantou Hotel. The house is designed by my brother-in-law Marco with a modern, soficiticated but simple. Although it won’t be the same house we grow up and spent 20 years, I like our new house, big, fashion and the location is fantastic.

Anyway, John was nervous to see my parents. My Dad treated us to the expensive Chinese seafood restaurant at the first night. My Dad knew John doesn’t like seafood, but have already prepared several vegetarian dishes for him. How lovely it is! Then next day Marco drove us to travel around Shantou. Unfortunately because it was new year, many local cuisine shops were closed, but John has tried some traditional bubble tea in OU JI. The third day, John saw our whole family relatives including my grandmum accidently. With the kindness everyone was enthusiastic to show John about different things, drinking gongfu tea with him. However, we didnot stay long and went to hang out with my friends. Last day we spent sometime with my cousin Aileen & Xun to have breakfast and we left Shantou.

The time in Shantou was short, but fun! It was a special New Year for us and we hope to see them very soon again!

2008年怎么样有一个好的开始呢?约翰决定要拜见我爸妈,因为我们08年有新的人生计划,我们将搬到伦敦,然而我却要辞掉安稳的工作,而去英国读硕士,不知道我爸妈是否同意这个主意,虽然我和约翰拍拖快5年了,都没有正式介绍给父母亲看-(因我不想他们罗索)哈哈!

好消息是爸妈搬新了新家——金色花园,在君悦酒店隔壁。新家是由姐夫Marco设计的,简单时尚富有现代气味。虽然不是我们长大的地方,但是我蛮喜欢的,空间大,又新,地点又好。

约翰蛮紧张去看我爸妈的,老爸请我们去吃海鲜,知道约翰吃斋专门点了很多斋菜,真贴心!第二天姐夫车我们去游览汕头,看很多旧时后留下来的古迹,例如:小公园的英国邮电局 (我从来都不知道呢), 下午我们去亲戚家见了40多个亲戚!这下子约翰可吓呆了,大家蛮给他和功夫茶,吃这个吃那个,大家对他都很热情,我们见太多人就走了,和同学一起去喝欧吉珍珠奶茶!第三天早上,我们和表姐晓华表妹旬一起在麦当劳吃早餐之后就回广州了,结束了短短4天的新年之游。约翰很感激大家的厚爱,让他留下汕头超级好的印象,他甚至说大家都很热情,给他一个不一样的新年。希望很快和大家再相见拉。

(我带眼镜是因为要去做 镭射激光治疗,请见笑哦 !)

Winter Holiday – Christmas in Beijing

Beijing Trip 2007

We always planned to visit Beijing, but never had the opportunity. Finally, this Christmas, we had a Beijing trip (and before the 2008 Olympics too).

We arrived in Beijing at 4 PM with a heavy foggy sunset. Beijing has winter trees that look just like Christmas trees. The temperature was -3. I haven’t been to Northern China before so I had no idea what the cold weather felt. I quickly found out that it was really dry and cold and you could feel your hands becoming numb when not wearing gloves.

Our itinerary was: first day to Great Wall, second day to Summer Palace, third day to Forbidden City, Tiananmen Square, and maybe Heaven of Temple. We had very little time to visit these symbolic Beijing attractions.

Great Wall

Our original plan was to visit Mu Tian Yu instead of Ba Da Ling, but we decided that Ba Da Ling fitted better with our schedule. I was very surprised at how difficult the transport is in Beijing, even for a Chinese speaker. There are no directions or signs to show you how to get to popular destinations. From research on the internet we took the subway to Ji Shui Tang and then went to find the 919 bus. This simple task took a lot longer than it should as, upon leaving the station, there was no indication of where to find the bus. We headed in one direction chosen at random and came across seven 919 buses, each going in different directions. I wonder how foreigners will handle this!

Luckily for us we had a beautiful clear day with blue sky and sunshine. The Wall itself was full of tourists, as expected, but we chose to walk in the opposite direction to the crowds. The walk is very tough and steep, and it is really breath-taking to see how long the wall is and how magnificent it looks. Every step reminded me of old stories about the wall’s builders.

We walked one hour on the Great Wall before returning to Beijing to see the Yong He Gong Temple.

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Autumn / Fall in my heart

Autumn / Fall in my heart

Autumn has arrived and I always think of the song “Autumn in New York”. The sight comes to my mind when people are walking in the quiet park path covered with deep fallen leaves. The colour from life has faded away but a kind of love has printed deeper in everyone’s heart. It’s pretty nice. Meanwhile, it’s the perfect time for picnics in the park on autumn days. Here in Guangzhou you can’t really feel autumn. In daytime there is still plenty sunshine, but it is only at night that you can feel a stronger cool wind.

I love life that has a fast beat and has always got new things in it. It really fascinates me. I have been busy at work and being a survivor in life; I haven’t written anything here for while, I realized. In other words I don’t have any inspiration to write. On the contrary, life is not about only working; it contains more different experience. I like to take everything slow down and use my heart to feel nature. Personally it’s part of my relaxing way. My friends and I went to Da Fu Shan rading bicycle and had a picnic in the park. It was the best relaxing way in beautiful Autumn.

秋天的脚步早已步入,它让我想起“纽约的深秋”, 人们走在布满黄叶的小路,记忆的色彩或许在退色,但唯有爱永不退色。

广州的秋天, 白天依旧阳光抚媚, 深夜才感秋意。

爱新事物,爱生活节奏快的我,时而为工作忙碌,为生活而奔波,此刻停留下来体验下大自然的美,也是另一种生活方式。

在忙碌的生活中放下脚步,在深秋的季节出外野餐,去郊游,去度假,去体验更多经历。

Go-Cart Racing

No. 7 Carmen

We were invited to try Go-Cart racing (Ka Ding Che) in the National Park at Foshan. At first, I thought it wouldn’t be that hard, just like Peng Peng Che. When we got there, the staff taught us some of the rules different flag signals. Wow, it looked really like racing. Most of people there got the driver license except me.

We were separated into two teams, men and women (along with three children). My friends told me that we shouldn’t challenge the kids as they are more professional than all of us. Some of them were only 7-9 years old, but I was told they have been racing Go-cart since they were 5. Oh. My God…

Finally it started, I was so nervous that we would drive the real powerful engine. The next was our team. I picked the NO.7 Go-cart. I remember when I was studying in Shantou Foreign Language School, NO. 7 was my seat; and it became my lucky number. I tried my best to drive and the hardest was turning the corners, but I finally made it through.

The first race I was no.9 out of 11 people. Second one was no. 7, then no. 5 in the end. I was happy that I could drive that well and even beat other women.

It was new challenge, exciting and scary but fun Go-carting racing. You need to try one day.

卡丁车比赛
我们被李宁同志邀请去卡丁车比赛,与很多专业赛车的至友一起在佛山三水森林公园整整比赛了一天。我刚开始觉得应该满容易的,就像碰碰车一样。但我们到了场地,经过工作人员一番讲解之后,我才知道,基本个个都有车牌,就我没有,还没有开过一次车的经验,几滴汗水已经从头上滴了下来!我们分成几组,男子组和女子组(加上3个儿童)好友李宁和我说千万不要惹3个小朋友,他们看起来7-9岁,一个个都是赛车老手,5岁就开始赛车了,很Pro的!我的天啊。。。

终于开始比赛了,对着强大嗡嗡声的Engine我十分紧张。男子队赛完了就我们了,我挑了7号车,7号是我中专(初中)的座位号,特别有感情,也是我的幸运号。我尽我最大的努力,拐弯时是最难,最斜的幅度;我还冲去撞了车道的车胎一次(哈哈)但最终我还是圆满结束了我们的比赛。

第一场11人中我排9名,第二场排7名,最后一场排5名,对于我第一次赛车的结果我还是满满意的。 李奶奶第2名(小朋友第1名)。这绝对是个新的挑战,刺激,好玩,却惊险的卡丁车比赛。你一定要试试看。

Summer Holiday

Carmen in KL

Singapore

We went to Singapore and Malaysia for a summer holiday in July. We decided to stay in Singapore for three days and visited my old friend Bu Duo, who I haven’t seen for 10 years. Singapore has a very convenient metro system. We checked in Hangout Hotel which is located in Little India near Mt. Emily. Singapore is very expensive, just like Hong Kong. I think I needed to pay five times what I need to pay in Guangzhou. Our hotel was a boutique hotel for young back-packers, and had a very strong Ikea style. The price wasn’t bad (especially not compared to other hotels in Singapore), with a quiet location. The room was very small, but the hotel made up for it in other areas.

Bu Duo took us to Esplanade – Theatres on the Bay – in the first night and we ate the delicious and famous Singaporean ‘spicy crab’. It was the tastiest crab I’ve ever eaten. After dinner, we walked around the Esplanade (outside looks like a huge durian) and went to see the Merlion. The next day we spent the whole day in Sentosa, which was a small island. We visited Underwater World, rode on the Luge, and saw the dolphin show. Later we met with Bu Duo again and had a Thai dinner. We got tired for walking around all day and bought a ticket to see the “Transformers” movie.

Singapore is extremely clean and pretty. The city is full of energy and is very lively. It has some similarities with HK, but less people and more cleaner. I guess shopping in Singapore is more expensive than HK, although everyday expenses are like HK. I found so many cooking ingredients and imported foods in Singapore. I would like to live in Singapore!

Malaysia and Langkawi

When we arrived in Langkawi we rented a car from a company in the airport. We got a great deal for five days rental, totalling about 30RM a day! John drove of course; I was helping with directions.

We stayed in Tanjung Sanctuary hotel, which is a beautiful resort with a private beach. The hotel room was huge and we booked one with a sea view, right down by the beach. It’s so easy with the rental car and we enjoyed the freedom to explore different places in Langkawi. I am so familiar with the roads of this island even now. We went to see different waterfalls, the cable car, and went on a mangrove and snorkelling trip. The cable car was exciting and scary at the same time, with break-taking views from the top. The rest of the days we just relaxed and enjoyed the beach.

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Evaluate yourself

Evaluate yourself

First I would like to apologise that I haven’t written anything for the past 3 months. Sometimes you find it really hard to squeeze time and to clear your mind and sit down to type for a couple of hours. Every single day is occupied by work and when you return back home, you’ve got a life to lead. Actually my friends have been complaining that they haven’t seen me for over 6 months as well.

I found another interesting topic to talk about, which is the difference between how the West and the East evaluate employees. Have you ever sat down and evaluated yourself? I never have until now, and even scarier was needing to talk about my own performance.

Recently I’ve watched TV programmes like “American Top Model”, “Project Runway”, “The Apprentice”, and “Hell Kitchen”. They are all basically the same show, and are designed to evaluate who is the very best. The evaluation process is generally performed by a panel of judges who are experts in their chosen field. The most important parts of the shows are when we watch the contestants perform under pressure, and see what they have to say about themselves and their abilities.

I never thought about this process until it happened to me at work. A few weeks ago I was asked to evaluate myself, and told that my answers would directly affect my bonus. As a Chinese who has never worked for a foreign company before, and who has therefore never taken an evaluation, this was quite a challenge for me. The fact that it affected how much I got paid made it even more nerve-wracking.

I was told to talk about my achievements and the contributions I’ve made to work, and not to exaggerate or be embarrassed. This I found very difficult as it’s just not part of the Chinese culture. Even though I am a confident person, I still did not like talking about myself in front of my superiors, and especially did not enjoy being criticised or praised. This is a very noticeable difference between how the West and East operates

As a Chinese person, if you are working for a Chinese company, you always undertake the exact job assigned by your supervisor. You are not expected to do anything else, and you are not expected to show initiative – a job is a just a job. This how it works in China. In the West, however, it seems that a job is more of a ‘career’, and an employer is wanting to help improve your whole career, not just wanting you to work more efficiently.

Confucius tells us to always be humble and stay low, even if you are outstanding. This is the opposite of a Western viewpoint where they are taught to express themselves and try to shine as much as possible. Perhaps this is one of the reasons that the West is typically more creative.

This is not an argument about which side is better. It really depends on your knowledge, personality, and background. I do admire the West’s openness, honesty, and decisiveness. I find it fascinating to learn what life is like in another culture, and look forward to experiencing more differences.

评价自己

开头先跟大家说声抱歉,已经3 个多月没有写任何东西在网站里;平时除了忙碌的工作,下班后又想享受下私人的时间,没有什么时间能挤出来平静的写点东西;有些朋友甚至投诉我6个月才见我一次,哈哈,对不起拉,兄弟姐妹!

又被我找到一个中西方文化差异的题目,我觉得蛮感新鲜也对我很有启发性。我猜大家都曾静下心自己反省过自己那里不足,从而自己打心底去改进?但大家有没有经历过要在别人面前评价自己,反省自己的不足呢?

相信大家可能在追 “美国模特真人秀”, “天桥骄子”, “飞黄腾达”, 或 “ 地狱厨房” 都是强者为王,弱者淘汰的商业电视节目. 我相信大多都是真人秀, 有血有泪才赢得光荣嘛! 最紧张的时候就是看淘汰选手的那几分钟, 大家站在评委面前, 说出自己哪里表现得最好,自己哪里不足?

我从没想过自己在工作岗位也要面临这样的 “命运” . 在外企, 大家每半年都要向最高领导评价自己, 不只是领导评价你,你还要自己评价你自己对工作的贡献和不足. 当然啦,多劳多得嘛. 但不能天花乱坠夸奖自己, 别人有目共睹的嘛,再说,还有你的上司评价你呢? 对我来说, 真是个挑战阿. 之后,我觉得这个也是体现中西方文化不同和教育不同的差异.

虽蛮自信的我, 还是觉得有点别扭. 感觉就像在评委面前说自己哪里好,自己哪里不足, 我们不是在这种文化长大的嘛! 我有点尴尬的实事求是的说了我自己的情况拉.

大家都知道, 在中国的企业或机构, 总是领导给你任务你就执行;或者自己跑业务打关系赚提成. 我们都是在这种文化熏陶长大的嘛. 我想大多中西方思维和文化的不同. 就像我之前谈的 “ 功夫茶”, 西方国家的人很独立自主, 也毫不修饰的别人或事业上面前表达自己; 作为孔子的后代, 就算你是成功人士, 也总是学会 “ 谦逊为主, 低调为辅”. 可能西方国家更注重培养主动权在自己, 而不是任何事都被动去接受, 这也是他们多于创新主义的源头.

其实这没有哪边好或哪边不好,大家在成长在不同的知识,性格和教育背景,你只能选择适合自己的一方。不过我真的欣赏西方人的思想开放,坦诚,豪爽和无可否认他们的诚信。事实上,归咎于社会教育文化的不同,就是这些点点滴滴不同,我才发现很多中西方不同的东西让我很着迷和好奇。或许之后再让我评价自己,我会做得更好,因为我要每天都提升自己。