Principles of Life(生活的原则)

What are your principles? You may not have thought about it so directly. Principles are what you think is right and wrong. They are the rules that guide you. They are what tells you if it’s right to steal, even though no one will ever know. Whether it’s right to cheat, even though no one will ever find out. Whether it’s right to hurt someone just because you can.

Principles are not only for yourself, they are for your family, for your society, and for your country. I’ve read in the news that China’s economy is becoming stronger and that our life is getting better and better, but when people in other countries still think that our products and our reputation is cheap; that we copy everything, make fake products, pirate DVD, then I wonder how much credibility we really have.

I am positive that our country and some people have made tremendous contributions to China. Take Haier and Shanghai Tang as examples. They’ve both become international Chinese brands. China needs more enterprises like these, more to increase not only our economy, but also our standing in the world.

Sometimes I feel bad about the way we are perceived. A lot of the time the problem is one of principles. People like the easy way to make more money; to make their life more enjoyable; to not work so hard like others. Some people think it’s the smart way, and they believe it’s the most efficient way. They lose their principles or faith when they face the temptation.

Principles also affect our everyday life. Do you work hard because you want to succeed, or do you secretly hope that someone will come and rescue you so you don’t need to do anything? What make your life not empty, so that you are not like someone who has lost their faith and just joins the big crowd? Principles can make you not just like toys or animals. They can make you feel like you have a brain and wisdom to think what is right and what is wrong.

To be in this new generation brings with it new responsibilities. We have better education, a more international culture; we have our own thoughts and our own dream to pursue. We can do better than our parents. However, should we focus only on material gains? Is a new car, house, or TV the road to happiness? Our principles may cause us to ask ‘what can I do for my country?’ As well as taking from the country we need to give back to it. We need to ensure that while we grow economically strong it is not at the expense of reputation. Life is not just about taking; it’s also about giving.

I will try and make sure I stick to my principles.

(生活的原则)

生活的原则是什么?这个问题你可能没有问过自己。原则简单的定义是:你相信什么真理是对,什么是错,然后在你一生中鞭策着你成长,不只是道德原则,是自己的待人处世的准则;比如说考试不作弊,不要因为别人工作偷懒你就偷懒,不要因为赚快钱而去做违法的事,不要因为没耐性就插队或不要报复他人因为别人伤害了你。也许听起来比较可笑,因你觉得不值得这样做,做一个正直的人,在这个世界上它不可能出现或不现实,但请相信自己的原则,象坚持四项基本原则一样,不动摇。

有没有生活的原则,这小到个人道德的问题,再到你家庭教育的问题,大到影响到中国社会的原则。虽近年来,中国的经济实力增长无可否认,人民生活水平也有所提高,但说到中国的名声及产品,给外国人的第一印象还是产品不精致,便宜,仿冒,造假,盗版光碟及信用度不高等;像最出名的(Google-谷歌)中国的版本(Baidu-百度) ICQ变到中国几亿人口都在用的腾讯QQ;站在我们的角度,不是说提倡中国版本不好,外国版本中国化,改装到更适合中国人喜欢的版本,更贴中国人的心;但对外国人来说,不仅是侵犯到他们的版权及名誉问题,还盗用他们的研发劳动成果。

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Backstreet Jazz Bar

There are only 2 jazz bars in Guangzhou. One is the Blue Note, where my friends band has been performing for several couple years (although they had to perform in the Garden Hotel – everyday I can listen to live jazz music between 6pm – 7 pm). The other one is the Backstreet Jazz Bar, situated in the lovely surroundings of Guangzhou’s Ersha Island. Around the corner is the Xinghai Concert Hall, and at the end of the street is the Pearl River. You can’t be any better situated. And also it’s one of the few areas where you can enjoy a walk in peace.

The bar is a two storey glass building set inside a bamboo forest. A lower ‘Jazz’ floor opens out into a small upstairs restaurant area, and the two are joined together, and with the outside world, by a complicated series of stairs, bridges, and sliding doors. The decor is dark, metallic, and subdued, with lots of glass and mirrors. Look very modern, fancy, and you feel naked, like you are walking in the air. Pretty cool.

The restaurant ostensibly serves Latin-American styled food, although it borders on the generic American Italian. The prices are high and portions are small. Drinks, although available in a wide array of forms, are equally served in small quantities. Ask for a glass of wine and you’ll think yourself the butt of a joke; drink it fast otherwise the meagre serving will evaporate.

The staff are nice and friendly, and some of them are from other countries of Asian who speak English only. The restaurant is focusing on attracting foreign people in Guangzhou so English speaking staff is necessary. The food itself is very tasty.

At around 8.30 a quartet of musicians arrive on the tiny downstairs stage, boasting musicians from Canada, Russia, Brazil, and China. Quite a mix. A smooth talking Geraldo Lucio sings, trying his best to draw the small crowd into the music. Herein lies the main problem with the Backstreet: it’s too big and the crowds are too small. The music is excellent, and Lucio prowls the audience trying to get some feedback, but they are too thin and from a very different cultural background to provide him what he wants.

To cut a long story short, we enjoyed the food and the new jazz band. The band only stay here for 2 months. So if anyone who like jazz and want to experience different music passion, I highly recommend it’s worth to be there and enjoy the music.

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Backstreet Jazz invited Sebastian Schunke on October 2007 to perform in GZ. Jazz fans, don’t miss this chance

9.10. Guangzhou, BackStreet, Jazz Club, 21.45 -23.45
10.10. Guangzhou, Back Street Jazz Club, 21.45- 23.35

在广州爵士吧只有两间,一间是“蓝调”在淘金路,一间在二沙岛的星海音乐学院的隔壁,叫“后街爵士餐厅& 酒吧”,在一个很隐蔽的地方,外面都是绿色的灯和竹子为起来的,只是看到“后街”用大红色的灯格外突出,楼进门的楼梯都用玻璃做成的,再由一道自动的铁门进入,里面的装修很有品位和时尚,里面基调都是红色和透明的玻璃的结合,连过道都是一道磨沙玻璃连接起来的,二楼是餐厅,7-8张桌子,后面是一个长长的调酒吧台,陈列和几百种酒;楼下是一个摆放Live的乐队的乐器,和10几张吧台和很 Cozy的沙发,装修来说,无懈可击,就想JAZZ 一样充满鲜红的热情,象玻璃一样能看穿人们的心理…

我们周末去那里吃饭听爵士,因为刚在花园认识了新来的一只乐队,所以去捧他们的场,东西很贵,从头盘50块不等,主食150—400不等,当然拉,这样的装修需要差不多的价格的,再说,听说老板希望以高档的餐厅为主;酒水都是55—100一杯不等,所以两个人下来就要差不多500了,说到服务人员,几个是说外籍服务人员,从其他亚洲城市来的,餐厅为了吸引多些外籍人事,所以花了比较多精力在管理里面,服务还不错;亲切和附带笑容;

说到重心点:一只好的爵士乐队才是餐厅的灵魂,9:30乐队才开始演出,钢琴手从加拿大请来的叫Doug Louie (douglouie.com) 后来和他们成为好朋友之后我才知道人家的来历都还不小呢,想过来这边看看中国,还有一个多重国际的巴西人事Geraldo Lucio,和一个刚从上海请来的鼓手Tom Lee, 大提琴低音是由我朋友现在在花园酒店表演中跳选过去的,算是一个很难得的结合;我之前因为朋友生日,去过“后街”一次,说是澳大利亚来的女歌手,真是一般再一般啊;因为我在上海希尔顿听过很专业的爵士再说这么多年对爵士的热爱,你就会知道什么是好,什么是不好;所以,这次他们的新组合真的很棒!真希望广州能多点爵士听众!长话短说,可惜这只乐队在这里逗留的时间仅限两个月;所以“后街”这只新的乐队是值得大家去听一下的,感受不同音乐带来的给你不同感受•

这个月的表演嘉宾:
2005年曾来中国香港/广州/上海/深圳演出;因自己错过德他们首次在广州的表演爵士乐队的表演而感到遗憾,昨天收到他的经理人对广大爵士歌迷的宣布: 10月份Sebastian Schunke终于再次到中国,广州,表演。这次到10月9-10号在广州的后街爵士餐厅表演,我一定不会错过的.

I love my hometown – Shantou

back-to-shantou

我爱我家-汕头

老是想写点什么关于汕头的,但由于工作,一直没有很多时间去动笔;直到看到涵了点关于汕头的,才让我有灵感写下几段话跟大家分享。汕头-一个让我感到骄傲的城市,一个我土生土长的地方,它的空气,它的土地是抚养育我成长,认识我的所有朋友都知道我总为是汕头人为自豪,而给我一个称号 “特区青年”,。

汕头-(童年小学篇):

一个给我美好童年, 塑造我独立个性, 恩赐我许多疼爱我的朋友们; 我总为我小学时候11 人帮而骄傲, 我老做带头羊跟他们去 “攻城” , 早上5: 30 在我楼下停车场打羽毛球; 放学后到四五个哥们到 我家打麻将; 我们就像电影中的 ( Eleven Ocean ) 11罗汉, 可惜他们个个都是学习上的精英成绩都在top 10 , 从不会被老师骂; 每次去哪里玩, 出事背黑锅的一定是我, 可怜的我! 虽我们11罗汉现在分散世界各地, 个个都为自己的将来而奋斗, 聚少散多, 但彼此的默契是永远不会磨灭的, 直到现在我们都个很好得姐妹兄弟, 我为有他们而骄傲.这是我人生中最开心的求学第一阶段。

初中—(性格蜕变的阶段)

从一个短头发的男孩头(所谓的女人中的男人)第一次初恋的时候就让我转变成一个小女孩,发生了许许多多的事情,我依然历历在目,不过太琐了,初中,一段让我认识自我,性格790度蜕变的时期。

中专篇 - (觉悟的年代)

一个让我锻炼英文的基地, 在许多十分聪明和多才多艺的同学中,给与我三年时间去了解他们,互相学习。在树造我的个性,大家出了很多功劳,永远忘记不了第一年在东夏路操场上的体育课,音乐课,哈哈,大家都是多么天真无邪;和旖旎在出演“小红帽”的英文话剧,到第二,三年时候,中午被逼要在学校吃饭,楼下的“沙县”啊姨长期照顾;,在大型电影院的“Do Re Mi” 歌剧,回想起来时间的流逝, 中专是我第二个最开心的求学阶段。

大学-(一个真正认真学习的基地)

大学四年在广外,遇到很多新鲜事物,新人类,很多好朋友,无论在很多方面大家都支持我,鼓励我,特别是我的宿舍友;4年学校生活是我22年来最认真读书去学知识的时候,一向都不是很喜欢枯燥无味的学习,看书就睡得我,在大学我真的利用很多时间去获得新的知识,带领我唯一喜欢学习的动力是:我的好奇心和我的好胜心。

人生的三分之一在求学阶段,我总对自己说自己是多么幸运,汕头给我快乐人生的三分之一,我也希望我人生的三分之二也是这么的幸运。一个让我永远有归属感的地方,空气都比外面新鲜十倍,汕头人总有种“倍思亲”的传统,虽然在外,心总在汕头,从小到现在总想为汕头贡献的什么,以后有钱也会为我可爱的汕头贡献,这是我的心愿;所以年少的心总想到外面看看世界,体验下外面有多大,不同新鲜的事物,喜欢改变又害怕改变的矛盾心里,喜欢在摸索中学习,满足自己的好奇心,希望不辜负父母给我的这一条生命。 没有来过汕头的朋友们,记得要来这个美丽的小城市! 很快我会附上从小学到初中到中专我的相片。

Black and White

a-white-lady

You might think “black and white” party? No, there is an interesting topic about different about complexion in China and the West.

My western friends keep asking me “ why the Chinese always like taking the umbrella wherever sunshine is coming out?” people like be tanned or have a brown skin in the west. On the opposite, people in mainland China prefer their skin to look very white even like pale. There are several reasons for that. The big reason for white skin because Chinese men like women to look white. If women look white, it means they are week and innocent and men can protect them. The others reason is that white skin means they are rich, dark skin means they are working outdoors all the time, not an properly ladies.

However, in the west, people like to be tanned a lot and it represents healthy and fashion. It means people have more time for outdoors or on holidays and it is a rich symbol.

The same thought has appeared in most cultures. Hundreds of years ago it was a sign of beauty in Europe for a woman to be white, and this was for the exact same reasons: being white implied you were not working class, being dark implied you were a worker. At that time women used to apply all sorts of dangerous chemicals to their face to make it whiter. Queen Elizabeth I is famous for wearing lead powder, a chemical that we now know as being toxic to humans.

I’m sure the same will happen in China and over time having a tan will be a sign of wealth.

黑白主题

是否想到黑白派队呢?不是哦,是一个关于西方和中国喜欢不同肤色的主题。很多西方朋友问我,为什么中国人每当太阳出来就撑起雨伞呢?欧洲西方国家人们喜欢棕色的皮肤,而相反来说,中国人喜欢白皙的皮肤,主要的原因是中国男人喜欢白皙皮肤的女人,代表天真纯洁软弱,他们可以保护;二来白皙皮肤代表富贵的象征,假如棕色的皮肤,代表你是农民阶层,不是上流社会,白领的女人。

相反来说,西方国家喜欢棕色的皮肤,代表健康和时尚,同时也代表人们富裕的象征,有多余的钱去度假,晒太阳,享受生活,是有钱的象征!其实同样的事情发生在大多数的文化背景中。几百年前的欧洲,上流社会名媛白皙皮肤就是时尚与身份的象征。这也是同样的理由你不是工人阶级。伊丽莎白一代皇后就喜欢超级白皙的皮肤,涂上很多有毒的白皙化妆品,而这些漂白的化妆品而却是致癌的。

时代的变化,我相信不久的将来中国人也喜欢棕色的皮肤,同时也是代表富裕和健康。

Congfu Tea Culture

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Congfu Tea , talking about Congfu tea it made me have a thought about another different culture in between Chinese and Western country.

Cong Fu tea, which is popular in Chaoshan area of Guangdong and the south of Fujian, is integrated with many aspects of tea such as spirit, ceremony, tea-making technique, and quality commentary. Regulations are made for the tea sets, tea-leaves and water, and its making, teaing and serving. It’s wonderful beyond words to sip and taste tea slowly and carefully with the small pot and cups. The fragrant of tea is divide several like green tea Tieguanyin, brown tea Oolong tea etc. As a chaoshanese from Shantou we are not only proud of our Congfu tea culture, every one also know how to make Congfu tea. but today we aren’t talking about how to make the Congfu tea; we are going to talk about the core of Congfu tea spirit.

Western people normally there have four dairy drinking cultures. One is coffee culture or British brown tea with milk and sugar one, the Coke drinking and the sparking water. In west, people drinking or eating are very individual way because people are more emphasis on what you own like and respect the other people’s choice. Western people are prefer to their own characteristics and specialties.

In Chaoshan or even the China, we are more emphasis on the group. My foreign friends always say Chinese like to follow the leader; Like if a shop has many people on the line waiting; other people might think it’s the nice shop, then follow the group. We like have a big drink or big meal like Hot-pot and everyone share with the same pot. Like Congfu tea, congfu tea always have 3 cups or more than 3 cups; it means all the people are sitting around the tea-set and talk in a group. It’s like a small party with serving a Congfu tea. That’s why people in China always say Chaoshaneses have the coherence of all the Chanshan people; I think it’s naturally form from our dairy life eating & living and become a culture.

It’s just funny that when I had a congfu tea with friends and talked about Congfu tea spirit and I realized it’s true that the different living style form in different culture, and I suggest sometimes these two opposite culture should exchange. Let Chinese experience more individual more; let westerners enjoy more group spirit.

说起功夫茶,它令我想到了中西饮食文化的差异,做为地道汕头人的我,不但个个都要会冲一壶好茶,也要懂得茶的文化精神。流行于广东潮汕、闽南等地的工夫茶,融精神、礼仪、沏泡技艺、巡茶艺术、品评质量为一体。无论是对茶具、茶叶、水质还是冲泡、饮法、礼节都中规中矩,大有讲究。茶具小壶小杯,品茶需慢慢吸啜细细品尝,妙不可言。内涵丰富的工夫茶习俗可谓中国茶文化一绝,但今天我想讲的是中西文化的饮食文化的不同而带来不同思维方式。

西方国家的人通常有四种是他们日常会喝的东西,像多数是咖啡,英式红茶,可乐和有汽的矿泉水。在西方,大家都很强调个性与独立,他们尊重别人的选择,不会把他们的思想强加在别人身上,这让每个人都很体现个性和独特性的追求。你喝你的咖啡,我喝我的饮料。

在潮汕地区,甚至其他中国地方,大家喜欢跟群,跟大伙;总之大伙说的一定是好的,像一家店前面很多人排队,那家人一定好吃;我们的个性宣传不是很大,中国人喜欢谦逊,喜欢照顾大众牺牲自己,可以说集体思想偏多一点,这是我们的一种美德,。潮汕地区的团结力就象我们大家围在一起品尝功夫茶一样,客人喝茶先,永远照顾大众,像一个陌生的人在藤下遮荫时,你要你看见有人在冲功夫茶,只要你停留片刻,大家都会热情叫你喝上几口功夫茶然后跟你闲话几句,体现照顾大众的文化。

在跟朋友品尝功夫茶同时启发我其实中西文化的不同来源与饮食习惯。中国人喜欢大伙一起分享;西方国家的人喜欢个性的美;其实我觉得这两种文化应该交换和综合,让中国人学习更有个性的美,多点享受自己的空间,自己争取想要的东西;让西方国家的人学习更有集体主义的美。

Cheers to the friendship

carmen-shine

When we get older, we realise that we can not spend as much time as used to be with friends. One reason is that people grow up. Friends after school go to different paths. For example, some of friends work in different cities; some are too busy to fly over different cities or countries; some even live in the same city but they feel too far and lazy to catch up with friends. However, people’s attitudes and values are changing and we meet more new friends every day.

There are ways to maintain the relationship with old friends is to communicate more. Although the feel for the old friends have not changed much, we need to make effort to keep the relationship updated as well as the world is changing.

Some people might think that they don’t want to bother their friends, but friends might not feel the same way. Take me as an example, I love friends bothering me. I feel very useful to be needed and that is why I love social gathering with friends such as hold a party. The reason for that is too see and catch up with old friends.

It is sad when I think of my best friends are so far way. One of my best friend Shine – we finally arranged to see each other again in the cafe after 1 year and an half, but during our conversation, she kept watching her watch and explained she got 30 minutes before rushing to the airport. I felt so little time to catch up with her, but this is life.

I know she is always being somewhere for me whenever I need her. They are not friends anymore, but are members of the family.

Friend is forever and let us treasures friendship. This is why carmenxu.com for – no matter how far I am; I always share my stories with my friends.

Cheers to friendship!

为友谊而干杯

当我们一天天长大,你会不由自主的发现你跟好朋友联系少了,不象你们在学校时候,虽不能常粘在一起,但至少聚多散少,毕业后各自选择的生活方式不同了,所以我们经历就不同了,价值观就随自改变了。你跟他们交流少了,因有些朋友生活工作在不同的城市,一些多数在天上飞过日子,一些即使在同一城市因住的远而懒得联系,但这不能是借口。但或许这就是我们成长和经历的不同,生活态度和价值观随之而改变。有些朋友甚至说你变了很多,其实不然,只是他们更的接触的少了,甚少交流才发觉你变了,变是好事,这世界需要不断的接受变化。但你对朋友那份心,那种默契是永远不会变的。有些人说“我不想麻烦朋友”但其实不然,朋友不觉得你在麻烦他们。

我喜欢朋友麻烦我,这意味这朋友需要你,他们需要帮助时候想到你。这就是我喜欢搞派对的原因,因为我希望除了大家开心之余,也跟好朋友多点聚聚,分享多点你的生活,不会因时间或空间而变得疏远。 真的很伤感但你觉得你最好的朋友离你那么远,她好忙而你经常不能见到她。我们多想珍惜我们的友谊啊,时而能见见面喝喝茶谈谈天,但聚少散多已是事实。象下午,涵在去白云机场飞去西安之前过来看我了下,我们在酒店旁边的“陆街”Café 坐下来,我几乎1年半多没见到她了,我们的谈话也变得很赶,她老对手机看时间,跟我说我们只有半小时,天啊,我们真的有很多很多话要讲,但我知道她真的很赶时间, 晚上她跟我说,差一分钟飞机就飞走了。但是在我心里我多想留住她啊。

当然我还是那样的爱她,她对我的感情也是这样,无论怎么样,当我需要她时候,她永远在我身边。虽我们会有越来越多的新朋友出现在你生命中,但你永远希望跟你最好的死党跟你分享你的喜和悲,他们不再是你的朋友那么简单,他们是你家庭成员的一份子。每次当你想到这些问提, 它令你思考,让你沉思。 但无论如何,朋友是永远的,我们好好珍惜他们。这也是我办网站的原因,让我所有朋友无论身在何处,都知道我是多么的想他们。

为朋友而干杯.

Adopting an Eastern Child

I went to Baiyun Airport in Guanghzou today for working and something inspired me to write in my blog today. When I walked inside I saw a party of about 10 couples from the west holding a Chinese or Asian child in each of their arms. All the children had eastern faces. I sat there and noticed that there was another couple that had an eastern boy who couldn’t talk English at all; obviously his parents are from American by their accent. Then I went back home and grabbed a bite to eat in Mc Donald’s, and there I saw more couples with eastern children again.

Actually, I saw a lot of these situations in consulates nearby in Shamian, which is where Guangzhou’s Pearl River is. Then I went back home and coincidently saw a program from ABC News 20/20—“aging out” talking about the thousands of orphaned children in American who are waiting to have a home again, or to be adopted. Well. It sounds dramatic, but it did happen today.

I don’t know if it’s a coincidence to see all this adoption stuff, but it did make me think a lot. I like babies, and think it’s very sweet to see more orphan children being adopted. Nowadays new couples prefer to have there own child, as well as adopting a child from a poorer country. One of my teachers, Lima, who is pregnant, told me she will adopt children;she said: “We will adopt children from poor countries, because there are so many children who need a home or need to be loved.” I think this is a really good philosophy.

What I learnt from today, and what inspired me is “Love does make the world go around”. It shows us that love is not selfish or possessing. Love is giving and showing to a new born child and that they are a gift from Heaven. You can say there is more social welfare in the west and people don’t have to worry about life as much; Meanwhile, China is rapidly developing its economy and I wonder how many years it will take Chinese people to have this thought of giving and not just possessing? It always takes times.

领养东方小孩

今天因工作关系我到了广州白云机场,当我看到一个外国团体十几对夫妇都各抱着有着东方脸孔的小孩子, 他们都对孩子们十分疼爱。然后我在一个地方坐下,同时另一对有着美国口音的夫妇也在我身边走过,他们有个东方小孩,大约4/5 岁,根本不会说英语,自己拖着比他大十倍的行李箱活泼乱跳着;而当我饿了随便在麦当劳吃了快餐时,也被我看到了又一对美国夫妇自己有了一个孩子,另外在收养一个东方小孩。

其实我走在沙缅时,在靠近领事馆的地方看到很多收养东方小孩的外国夫妇,多不胜数,但想到这现象时,让我对生命或人生的生活态度思考更多。在我回到家时,刚好在美国ABC电视台的20/20播发一个节目,讲述原来在美国有很多的孤儿在等待收养,等待有一个新的家庭。这一切一切都是那么的巧合的发生在今天,也许是我这个有心人,它令我想了很多。

我是个十分爱小孩的人,其实当我看到更多的夫妇收养更多的孩子,有种很温馨很温暖的感觉; 现在新一代的夫妇都喜欢自己生一个小孩收养另一个小孩,曾经是我的导师,现在正怀孕的Lima对我说:我们以后也想收养更多比较穷国家的小孩, 因为这个世界有太多的小孩需要一个家和需要被爱!多么感人的一番话啊。

生活的点点滴滴只要你细心留意,你能从中学到很多东西—“地球因爱而转动”!它让我们知道爱其实不是只是占有而是付出。新生的小孩是上天的一种恩赐;你可以说因西方国家的福利好,让他们不用为生活而拼命的奔波;同时,中国这几年在快速发展着,而我们又需要多少年去发展让中国人有这样美好的想法,让爱不再是占有而是付出?这永远需要时间去鉴证。

Live for family or for yourself

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I am an open-minded, rebellious girl. No matter whether in work, in relationships, or in life, I always want to be happy. I know who I am, what I need to do, and what I live for. I don’t care how other people judge me; only that I do my job well. I know if something has too many additions from the normal way, then it will change from the original. Sometimes things that happen in your life make you face your own reality.

My parents are a very traditional family in the Chaoshan area; Chaoshan people are famed for their caring attititude towards their family. I know many friends who have sacrificed their career to stay with the parents in Shantou. They are all very talented and they devote themselves to their family; they give up their dreams and live and work in their hometown. I am not saying that’s wrong or right. Nothing is wrong or right when you see them in a different position. I don’t know why Chinese parents always hope their children should live with them
and keep them in their vision?

My personal dream is this: parents should let children to experience what is life; let life teach them what the real world is about. Then you will try you best to earn money to devote to your hometown. I know it’s my untouchable dream,but I always hope I could do that.

However, I think we are a new generation; we have our own mind, our own dreams, we are educated and we have learnt about different cultures. Is this a reason to give up your own dreams and follow your parents? What about yourself? What do you live for? My friend Shine said: “because you belong to your family”. In Chinese tradition, parents raise you so you can’t belong to yourself. It’s one of the drawbacks. Though we choose to live our life in different towns, even our heart feels tired to strive against life sometimes; everyone wants to
settle down easily in life without worrying about things.

Will we be happy in the life our parents choose for us? Will their happiness be the same as our happiness? Different people have different paths in their life, and there are many routes with no choices. Human beings can’t always be selfish. I prefer that my parents respect my choices and what my life is; but not necessarily the way they want it to be. I hope my parents will respect my choices and wish me happiness. If I am happy, then they will be happy as well. If they really love and understand me, they will respect what I choose and not
interfere with my lifestyle; they will be my guides and teachers, and not force me to down a path of their choosing. If that happens then people become rebellious and struggle against it.

People always have ups and downs and you can only learn from your own mistakes. You have to take your own path to experience what life is to truly learn something inside. Maybe I will walk very hard but I hope I can look back on my life and say that I have finished it without regret.

No matter where I am, my body floats in the world, but my heart is still in Shantou. I love my hometown; I love my family. Without them, there would be no Carmen. But I hope this love is based on a respect and trust that goes both ways.

为家庭而活还是为自己而活

思想前卫带有西方思想而又带有叛逆的我,总希望我的生活简单,无论工作,感情,生活,希望很简单,很开心去做就好,做好自己的本分,不需要太多的外界干扰,因为我知道,很多东西假如有太多的外界干扰,会使它变质。但事实上现实不是像你想象的这么简单,我的家庭很传统的潮汕家庭,是所有人都知道最传统的,最顾家庭的。很多同学为了家庭,父母而放弃在外拼搏的机会,我有很多很有才华的聪明的朋友,都为了家庭而放弃自己的理想。这没有存在错与对,不同的角度看东西的事情不同。

不知道中国的父母都认为孩子就一定留在父母的身边?这样不自私吗?孩子又怎么能永远在温室里成长呢?每当我以前上大学时,上学校大巴回广州时,车水马龙的交通都因为所有的父母护送大学生们离开,在离开时还依依不舍的嘱咐这些或那些。他们都是大学生了,而且几个月就回家一躺,这不是教育孩子的方式。独立的我,总是摇摇头,父母总说我不懂他们做父母的心,或许吧!我的思想是:孩子需要锻炼需要去外面闯一番,然后为尽量为自己家乡创造财富,这永远是
我伟大的梦想。 那我觉得,我们年轻一族,有思想,有抱负,接受不同文化的熏陶,就为了父母想你留在他们身边而放弃自己理想吗?那你追求的生活呢?我朋友涵涵说:“因为你还是属于你家庭,中国传统父母养育 让你不能属于你自己,这也是中国一大弊端吧。虽然出門在外奋斗,内心永远有种累感觉,我们可以理解一个做父母亲心情,他们也不想我们奋斗太辛苦。”我们何尝不想安安稳稳轻松的过日子,但你经历多,有了不同的生命价观,思想就不是很单纯的满足物质生活,而是想充实精神生活。

按照父母给我们的生活模式我们会幸福吗?我们的幸福跟他们认为的幸福一样吗?不同人有不同角度去看生活。我明白生活有很多无奈和责任这是当然的,虽然爱是自私的,我明白父母总想孩子们总生活在一起,但为孩子好的话,应该放多点成长的空间孩子们去体现这个世界。我希望无论我选择什么样的生活方式,望父母会选择尊重和希望我开心,他们看到我的开心而开心,而不是按照他们的生活方式去做人,去生活,我不想我的人生为了别人而活,那不是我要的生活,也不是我的性格,他们是爱我的或了解我的,应该尊重我的选择而不是干涉我的生活方式,可以在旁指导并引到我,而不是强加给我的思想,我会反抗,我会变的叛逆,我希望是我会自动的给予或回报而不是别人的索回。我想我的生命由我自己掌握,好与坏是自己选择的路,人总要在跌跌碰碰中成长,人总要学会每一步自己去走,才学到东西。也许我会走的很辛苦,但我会无怨无悔去经历去体验什么叫做生活。希望我在我闭上眼睛上天堂时,我对自己说,我今生无悔。

无论我身在何处,身在外,心在汕头,我仍然爱我可爱的汕头,也永远爱我的家人,没有他们就
没有我现在的我,但希望爱是种尊重与信任。

My Poet to John

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One trip has changed my life.
Angel sent you to make me smile.
I feel our love is growing.
I’m not one of those who can easily hide.
Love is fragile and should be held tight

I’m falling in love
But I’m scared to let you go
You always tell me “ don’t worry baby”
You make me believe what is “love”

No matter how painful was it before.
You make my fair-tale story become true.
No matter how the story will be end.
You told me your life is just beginning

So many things are waiting for us to experience
How wonderful life it is while you are in my world.

Change

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Look up the fingernail noon,
With a sentimental mood.
Sunbathe in dark light
With a blue night.
Guide your home line
With stars bright.

Flying clouds over your head
Blowing winds crush your hair
With a usual slight fragrance
Peaceful, silent, darkness

Suddenly,
Moon behind clouds
Winds become strong,
Light becomes vague
A strike of coldness from winds
A drop, two drops, three drops…

The oil painting is one of my favourtie from Amo Life