Exciting going back to China

back to China

Since 08/08/2008 last year till today 09/09/2009, I have been away from China and my friends for over 1 year. It seems very long, but it also feels like just yesterday. I guess I could not adjust the weather when I am back to Guangzhou. The weather here in London is perfect temperature about 19-25 degrees, however, Guangzhou is about 35 degrees and very humid. Then I properly will spend one week to adjust the jet-leg.

All these things do not matter when I think of meeting friends, eating delicious food and spending time with my niece and family. The joy will be overcome the bad sides. Yuki and other friends plan to drive to Yangjiang and eat seafood there at the weekend I arrive. On one hand, I can’t wait flying on Tuesday. On the other hand, I do feel sad that John could not join me back to China this time, maybe we will be back during the Chinese New year Next year!

One sad thing is that sister told me Mum has rented out our old house. It means that the house where I had spent 20 years is gone – my white cat, my usual place, and everything. Although the house is old and small, it contains all the memories of my childhood, friends who came to visit, and normal life. I know that sooner or later it will need to be re-decorate it, or sell it, but I will miss it so much!

Anyway, see you soon, my friends! Thanks Trini of her bubble tea and Shantou pictures!

兴奋的快回中国!

从8月8号2008年离开中国,到今天9月9号2009年,差不多一年没有回国,想起来好像很久,但实际又好像是昨天,1年中发生了很多事,大家都为生活努力奋斗着!伦敦的天气十分清爽-19-15度之间,回到广州我可能不太适应广州的闷热35度的温度,再说,要1个星期才能调节好我的时差。

但这些都不要紧,一想到见到老朋友和吃很多中餐,海鲜及最重要是见我姐的女儿,从她出生到现在1年了,我很想念希希!Yuki 已经安排好到达的周末去阳江吃海鲜!我太兴奋了。下周二就飞,但我又舍不得约翰一个人在伦敦,可惜他不能请假太久回去,过年我们再一起回去吧。

一个很伤心的消息,老姐告诉我我家的老房子租给别人了,老房子储存了我20年生活的点滴 - 从小学到中专,朋友来来回回去我家作客,老家虽旧,但很多朋友都感觉是他们的另一个窝。我可怜的白猫,很多角落的点滴,回忆就这样很快消失了。其实我知道老家需要重新专修或租出去的,只是时间问题,我会想念它的!

总而言之,我太兴奋的飞回去啦,等我哦,朋友们!封面珍珠奶茶的照片是旖旎同学汕头的照片哦!

Farewell dinner with colleagues

Farewell dinner

Colleagues decided to eat in a really nice Italian restaurant near Oxford street. It properly was not the last dinner with my them, but I am glad that I got alone very well with most of the colleagues after 2 months and a half working in the company. Even though most of my colleagues are younger, crazier than me, they are smart and awesome.

It’s hard always to say goodbye to people, even though you know some of them you might not see them anymore in your life. It is nice to meet new people and share experience with them. This is life, people come and people go.

Thanks my friends and colleagues. Life is dull without their existence.

同事们说一起去吃意大利菜,虽然我知道这不是我们的大家的最后一餐,以后大家还会经常联系。还是感到十分开心在公司工作了2个多月,认识了这么多位不同国际的好朋友 - 他们虽都年轻和疯狂过我,但大家相处下来还是十分愉快的。人和人的缘分是很难说的,有些和你超好,很喜欢你,但有些只是路过而已。

有时候很难和好同事说再见,虽有些可能一辈子都不会和他们再见面,但相会就是有缘分。很多人在你生命中匆匆的走过,只留下短暂的记忆,但还是要感谢朋友们和同事们,生活没有他们的存在是无味枯燥的。

Hot Sunshine in London

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It has been so hot in these days, but with some breeze, not like China, it was incredible humid. Sometimes I enjoy my scoop of the ice-cream from the ice cream man or some drinks in a cafe to have a rest.

It was shock to hear that Michael Jackson was passed away and he was a legend to a lot of people. Although I am not a fan of MJ, I remember one of my cousin used to play MJ’s songs when I was young, that’s all the memories I have for MJ.

Recently we run out movies and TV series, however, we don’t have much time in the evening. We have been thinking where to live in next year or what we will do in next year. We might move out city of London and live in the country side even though we both love living in the city of London so much. However, it’s another step to achieve something in our life. We will see…Wish us luck!

伦敦7月的热天

这几天进入夏天最热的时候,伦敦地铁没有空调的,因整个地铁系统已经有几百年历史,虽然热,但凉风阵阵。有时候天太热,街上有‘冰淇淋车’ 可以买冰淇淋吃,或是坐在cafe外面喝杯东西,享受着阳光,这就是我工作之余的休息方式。

前几天听到迈克迅过世的消息蛮让我惊奇和觉得可惜的,至少他象麦当那一样是80-90年代的传奇。虽然我不是他的歌迷,给我他印象最深的时侯是我表哥在我90年代老放他的一张成名碟,那时侯还是放大碟的时期,现在都mp4的时代了!

不知道怎么的,我们找不到很多电影我们想看,也看完了很多一直追的电视剧,不过因为我工作的原因,我们也比较少时间能看电影和电视。最近我们在商量下年的打算,想搬出伦敦市中心,或许住在伦敦郊外,或是住在别的城市,体验下其他城市的生活,存多点钱买房子!虽然我们两都超爱住在伦敦市中心,但伦敦实在地贵物价也贵!我们在没有最终决定中,为我们祝福吧!

Goodbye 2008, good luck 2009

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Another year has passed and another year will soon arrive. As our lives fall into a routine, a day feels like a blink, and a year feels like a month. What did we remember about 2008? There were the Olympic games in China, the worldwide financial crash, and the USA’s new president Barack Obama. 2008 was not exactly a good year for some people, and not a good year to invest.

I feel my shoulder (responsibilities) get heavier every year. Personally, I think I achieved many things and challenged myself in 2008. It is my dream to live aboard and experience the life in the UK. However, I never take this for granted, because it is not easy to come so far and the road will not always be stable. I see it more interesting to walk and face challenges. Despite the fact that life is hard, let’s ‘getting some fun out of life’ like a song from Madeleine Peyroux always encourages me.

When we want to love, we love; When we want to kiss, we kiss
With a little petting, we’re getting Some fun out of life

When we want to work, we work; When we wanna play, we play
In a happy setting, we’re getting; Some fun out of life

Maybe we do the right things ; Maybe we do the wrong
Spending each day; Wending our way along

再见08,09新的开始

一年又过去了,日子过得好了,时间眨眼又一天,一年就好像一个月。08让我们最难忘的是北京的奥运,西方的金融风暴和美国新的总统奥巴马。08并非一安稳的好年,09年可能继续陷入金融复活期,但我们以积极的态度去面对,望好的方面去看。多一岁,肩膀的责任越重,但我仍然为自己的梦想奔波着,挑战新的一年。本人来说,08年完成了满多任务的,约翰和我双方见过父母,放弃7年广州的生活,到英国充实自己,学习新的东西,这是我的梦想也是我人生日记中新一页,但这所有的一切来得并不是容易,约翰和我努力着为我们的将来奋斗着,将来的路也并非容易的走下去,我把它看成多点挑战,多点惊喜给自己。我想每个人都有他追求的梦想,有他的问题要去解决,但永远不要忘记,象爵士歌曲中一首歌曲中唱得,记得在生活中 ‘苦中作乐‘, 无论生活多么不如意,这首歌曲永远鼓励我。

Family gethering in New Year 2008

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What it will be a good beginning to start 2008? John decided to meet my parents, and we have our new plan for 2008, that I will be studying in London for my masters and we moved to London. I am not sure my parents will like the ideas, so the most important thing is to introduce John to my parents. I know it sounds silly that we have been dating for almost 5 years now, and finally we have the chance to introduce both properly.

With a tremendous good news is that my parents have moved to the new house, where is next to the Meritus Shantou Hotel. The house is designed by my brother-in-law Marco with a modern, soficiticated but simple. Although it won’t be the same house we grow up and spent 20 years, I like our new house, big, fashion and the location is fantastic.

Anyway, John was nervous to see my parents. My Dad treated us to the expensive Chinese seafood restaurant at the first night. My Dad knew John doesn’t like seafood, but have already prepared several vegetarian dishes for him. How lovely it is! Then next day Marco drove us to travel around Shantou. Unfortunately because it was new year, many local cuisine shops were closed, but John has tried some traditional bubble tea in OU JI. The third day, John saw our whole family relatives including my grandmum accidently. With the kindness everyone was enthusiastic to show John about different things, drinking gongfu tea with him. However, we didnot stay long and went to hang out with my friends. Last day we spent sometime with my cousin Aileen & Xun to have breakfast and we left Shantou.

The time in Shantou was short, but fun! It was a special New Year for us and we hope to see them very soon again!

2008年怎么样有一个好的开始呢?约翰决定要拜见我爸妈,因为我们08年有新的人生计划,我们将搬到伦敦,然而我却要辞掉安稳的工作,而去英国读硕士,不知道我爸妈是否同意这个主意,虽然我和约翰拍拖快5年了,都没有正式介绍给父母亲看-(因我不想他们罗索)哈哈!

好消息是爸妈搬新了新家——金色花园,在君悦酒店隔壁。新家是由姐夫Marco设计的,简单时尚富有现代气味。虽然不是我们长大的地方,但是我蛮喜欢的,空间大,又新,地点又好。

约翰蛮紧张去看我爸妈的,老爸请我们去吃海鲜,知道约翰吃斋专门点了很多斋菜,真贴心!第二天姐夫车我们去游览汕头,看很多旧时后留下来的古迹,例如:小公园的英国邮电局 (我从来都不知道呢), 下午我们去亲戚家见了40多个亲戚!这下子约翰可吓呆了,大家蛮给他和功夫茶,吃这个吃那个,大家对他都很热情,我们见太多人就走了,和同学一起去喝欧吉珍珠奶茶!第三天早上,我们和表姐晓华表妹旬一起在麦当劳吃早餐之后就回广州了,结束了短短4天的新年之游。约翰很感激大家的厚爱,让他留下汕头超级好的印象,他甚至说大家都很热情,给他一个不一样的新年。希望很快和大家再相见拉。

(我带眼镜是因为要去做 镭射激光治疗,请见笑哦 !)

Principles of Life(生活的原则)

What are your principles? You may not have thought about it so directly. Principles are what you think is right and wrong. They are the rules that guide you. They are what tells you if it’s right to steal, even though no one will ever know. Whether it’s right to cheat, even though no one will ever find out. Whether it’s right to hurt someone just because you can.

Principles are not only for yourself, they are for your family, for your society, and for your country. I’ve read in the news that China’s economy is becoming stronger and that our life is getting better and better, but when people in other countries still think that our products and our reputation is cheap; that we copy everything, make fake products, pirate DVD, then I wonder how much credibility we really have.

I am positive that our country and some people have made tremendous contributions to China. Take Haier and Shanghai Tang as examples. They’ve both become international Chinese brands. China needs more enterprises like these, more to increase not only our economy, but also our standing in the world.

Sometimes I feel bad about the way we are perceived. A lot of the time the problem is one of principles. People like the easy way to make more money; to make their life more enjoyable; to not work so hard like others. Some people think it’s the smart way, and they believe it’s the most efficient way. They lose their principles or faith when they face the temptation.

Principles also affect our everyday life. Do you work hard because you want to succeed, or do you secretly hope that someone will come and rescue you so you don’t need to do anything? What make your life not empty, so that you are not like someone who has lost their faith and just joins the big crowd? Principles can make you not just like toys or animals. They can make you feel like you have a brain and wisdom to think what is right and what is wrong.

To be in this new generation brings with it new responsibilities. We have better education, a more international culture; we have our own thoughts and our own dream to pursue. We can do better than our parents. However, should we focus only on material gains? Is a new car, house, or TV the road to happiness? Our principles may cause us to ask ‘what can I do for my country?’ As well as taking from the country we need to give back to it. We need to ensure that while we grow economically strong it is not at the expense of reputation. Life is not just about taking; it’s also about giving.

I will try and make sure I stick to my principles.

(生活的原则)

生活的原则是什么?这个问题你可能没有问过自己。原则简单的定义是:你相信什么真理是对,什么是错,然后在你一生中鞭策着你成长,不只是道德原则,是自己的待人处世的准则;比如说考试不作弊,不要因为别人工作偷懒你就偷懒,不要因为赚快钱而去做违法的事,不要因为没耐性就插队或不要报复他人因为别人伤害了你。也许听起来比较可笑,因你觉得不值得这样做,做一个正直的人,在这个世界上它不可能出现或不现实,但请相信自己的原则,象坚持四项基本原则一样,不动摇。

有没有生活的原则,这小到个人道德的问题,再到你家庭教育的问题,大到影响到中国社会的原则。虽近年来,中国的经济实力增长无可否认,人民生活水平也有所提高,但说到中国的名声及产品,给外国人的第一印象还是产品不精致,便宜,仿冒,造假,盗版光碟及信用度不高等;像最出名的(Google-谷歌)中国的版本(Baidu-百度) ICQ变到中国几亿人口都在用的腾讯QQ;站在我们的角度,不是说提倡中国版本不好,外国版本中国化,改装到更适合中国人喜欢的版本,更贴中国人的心;但对外国人来说,不仅是侵犯到他们的版权及名誉问题,还盗用他们的研发劳动成果。

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Sensibility – 感悟

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感悟

窗外滴答雨响,屋内滴答钟摆
午夜的忧郁,寒冷的北风
岁月留情,转眼逝去
墙外多欢喜,墙内愁悲谁可知
念友人伴念,望故人相思
谁解其中味

留雨

昨盼雨, 为何迟迟不来,
今思雨,只因念故
只有故人会知其意
不知它带来慰籍,还是赐于感觉
躺在港湾,心在漂浮
虽昨日旧事不想,但记忆余温还存
心未忘,念你之情
雨未停,懂我之意
深知没有你,日子依旧过,
却逊色一般
你曾滋润我心,
给我雨后彩虹般的快乐
你悄悄地走进我生命
却静静地停止你的雨滴
好一句“思雨如思佳人”
层层语意,每每动心,
今你心之何处
时否曾想故人
怨你不曾多停留
良辰美景虽短
却因故人思雨情长
望念我好,思我长,
应一句“见雨如见故人”

2003年自己的诗集 – 是我写给我曾经很爱的人,现在打这首诗歌的时候我还记得我在半夜躺在床上写的,虽过3年多,但还是历历在目啊。但望故人在他乡安好。虽爱得很深,伤得很深,一切都随风而去了,留下的只是回忆。人永远向前看,往前走,在你生命中有很多过客,有缘分,也要惜缘,缘分已到,强求也没有用,人生苦短,开心才是最重要的,我老和朋友讲,一加一一定要等于二,所以两个人在一起,要等于2份开心,不然,何苦在一起呢?我相信每个人总有一个真正属于他/她的另一半。

Thailand Trip

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We planed to travel in Thailand by ourselves in May Pubic holiday. We booked the Air Asia Airline from Macao to Bangkok. Air Asia is cheap for the backpack traveler.

First destination: Bangkok

Bangkok known to the locals as Krungthep (City of Angels) is the rapidly beating heart of Thailand. Despite being just over 200 years old, it houses 8 million people and has all the facilities that a modern capital requires.

Here you will find the Grand Palace and the floating market, as well as the infamous Khao San road, and many other seedier tourist delights.
Bangkok suffers from major traffic problems, and journeys can (and often will) take much longer than the distance would have you believe. To alleviate this, Bangkok constructed the Expressway, cutting straight through the city. Additionally, there is the Skytrain, an overhead metro system, as well as an underground metro system.

There is another transportation is called Tuk Tuk. They will offer you a very good deal about travel in Bangkok; but it turned out they drive you to visit a tailor, a jeweller, or a restaurant. Just completely ignore TukTuk; take a taxi and save yourself any hassle.
Without sounding intimidating, you do need to apply a lot of common sense in Bangkok or the whole Thailand. As a tourist you will be a prime target for small-time scams, cons, and rip-offs. This is I didn’t enjoy the transportation in Bangkok. You couldn’t trust anyone at all. Who knows anyone came to talk to you and being nice to you, it turned out they all want you to visit the jeweler shop…

The Grand Palace

The Grand Palace, home of the King for nearly two centuries, is probably Bangkok’s number one tourist destination and a required visit for everyone. It is a vast and intoxicating mixture of temples, shrines, palaces, and heavily jewelled and painted architecture.
A visit here is well worth the 250 baht entrance fee. It’s more than just a mere Kodak-moment, and you’ll likely spend the first 10 minutes walking around in astonishment at the sheer variety and quantity of sights.

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I love my hometown – Shantou

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我爱我家-汕头

老是想写点什么关于汕头的,但由于工作,一直没有很多时间去动笔;直到看到涵了点关于汕头的,才让我有灵感写下几段话跟大家分享。汕头-一个让我感到骄傲的城市,一个我土生土长的地方,它的空气,它的土地是抚养育我成长,认识我的所有朋友都知道我总为是汕头人为自豪,而给我一个称号 “特区青年”,。

汕头-(童年小学篇):

一个给我美好童年, 塑造我独立个性, 恩赐我许多疼爱我的朋友们; 我总为我小学时候11 人帮而骄傲, 我老做带头羊跟他们去 “攻城” , 早上5: 30 在我楼下停车场打羽毛球; 放学后到四五个哥们到 我家打麻将; 我们就像电影中的 ( Eleven Ocean ) 11罗汉, 可惜他们个个都是学习上的精英成绩都在top 10 , 从不会被老师骂; 每次去哪里玩, 出事背黑锅的一定是我, 可怜的我! 虽我们11罗汉现在分散世界各地, 个个都为自己的将来而奋斗, 聚少散多, 但彼此的默契是永远不会磨灭的, 直到现在我们都个很好得姐妹兄弟, 我为有他们而骄傲.这是我人生中最开心的求学第一阶段。

初中—(性格蜕变的阶段)

从一个短头发的男孩头(所谓的女人中的男人)第一次初恋的时候就让我转变成一个小女孩,发生了许许多多的事情,我依然历历在目,不过太琐了,初中,一段让我认识自我,性格790度蜕变的时期。

中专篇 - (觉悟的年代)

一个让我锻炼英文的基地, 在许多十分聪明和多才多艺的同学中,给与我三年时间去了解他们,互相学习。在树造我的个性,大家出了很多功劳,永远忘记不了第一年在东夏路操场上的体育课,音乐课,哈哈,大家都是多么天真无邪;和旖旎在出演“小红帽”的英文话剧,到第二,三年时候,中午被逼要在学校吃饭,楼下的“沙县”啊姨长期照顾;,在大型电影院的“Do Re Mi” 歌剧,回想起来时间的流逝, 中专是我第二个最开心的求学阶段。

大学-(一个真正认真学习的基地)

大学四年在广外,遇到很多新鲜事物,新人类,很多好朋友,无论在很多方面大家都支持我,鼓励我,特别是我的宿舍友;4年学校生活是我22年来最认真读书去学知识的时候,一向都不是很喜欢枯燥无味的学习,看书就睡得我,在大学我真的利用很多时间去获得新的知识,带领我唯一喜欢学习的动力是:我的好奇心和我的好胜心。

人生的三分之一在求学阶段,我总对自己说自己是多么幸运,汕头给我快乐人生的三分之一,我也希望我人生的三分之二也是这么的幸运。一个让我永远有归属感的地方,空气都比外面新鲜十倍,汕头人总有种“倍思亲”的传统,虽然在外,心总在汕头,从小到现在总想为汕头贡献的什么,以后有钱也会为我可爱的汕头贡献,这是我的心愿;所以年少的心总想到外面看看世界,体验下外面有多大,不同新鲜的事物,喜欢改变又害怕改变的矛盾心里,喜欢在摸索中学习,满足自己的好奇心,希望不辜负父母给我的这一条生命。 没有来过汕头的朋友们,记得要来这个美丽的小城市! 很快我会附上从小学到初中到中专我的相片。

Breaking Tradition

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More people are getting married during ages between 22 to 25 in Shantou. Like my Mum usual told a girl that when she is under 25, she can choose what man she wants to marry, because men are prefer young girls generally. However, it is a tradition that women reply on men and being passive. It is like hundreds years ago in the West, and it still exists that women grow up as a passive images to be chosen by men. As silly as my Mum, they don’t see women as intelligent as men, as long as women can find a good husband.

Nowadays, female have equal education and occupation choices and they don’t have to reply on searching men to get married because they are ‘young’. On the opposite, there are many failure marriages because of marrying too young or married the wrong one. When they are young, they have not experience enough and made a rush choice to be with someone. People should know whether they have ability to create a new family. It does exist that people are too young to marry a wrong one. Of course I also see many people had their happy marriages. I do think women are smart and capable to choose what they want, and whether they want to marry or not, regardless the age issues or social pressure either judgement.

Different people have different ideas about the issue. despite age or gender issues, this is about breaking tradition. It’s different valuation to choose. if something you choose for sure, keep walking on to search your happiness without complaining because it is your choice.

The reason inspired me to write this article is the movie Mona Lisa Smile which showed women were try to break through the tradition. The main character was a teacher, and her personality was influenced her female students. Instead of getting married after graduation, the female students can do whatever they want to achieve in their life, not just focus on marriage. Ideally we hope women can be a good wife and be successful in their career as well.

打破传统

在汕头,很多人22-25岁就结婚生孩子。就象我妈妈常我们说,一个女孩子在25岁之前就可以选男人,25岁之后就是男人选你了。因为男人永远喜欢年轻的女孩子,年轻就是你的皇牌!这让我觉得为什么女人永远处于被动,男人总是主载女人的权利,就象几百年前西方国家的生活一样,传统的男人为住,女人为附,而我们在重复着他们的步伐。

现代社会,女人和男人拥有一样的教育权利,有机会一起在工作上竞争。女人有更多选择的空间,毕业之后,不止是为了结婚生孩子,因为为了乘年轻嫁个好老公。相反之中,很多人嫁错郎因为年少无知,父母要他们乘年轻结婚,结婚之后才知道两人不合,太冲动而结婚,没有能力组织一个新家庭。当然,组织新家庭并不容易,我也见证很多成功的婚姻。我相信女人和男人一样聪明,有能力去主宰她们的生活。女人是否几时结婚,不需要以年龄,或社会的压力来决定,是她们自己决定她们想和她所爱的人成立一个家。

不同的人有不同的意见吧,女人们能打破传统,突破年龄问题或是性别歧视或社会的压力是很不容易的。生活价值的不同观决定人不同的命运,假如你选择了一条你自己决定的路,不要后悔,勇往直前走下去,不要抱怨,因这是你选择的道路。

我有这个‘打破传统‘的想法其实是自己的性格就比较独立反叛,看到电影(蒙娜丽莎的微笑)讲着一个女老师能打破传统,因当时的社会毕业后就结婚,她选择了她想要做的事情,而不是传统的结婚生孩子,而这启发了她很多快毕业的学生。电影简单感人。理想中我们希望能做个成功的妻子/妈妈兼优秀的事业女性。